Why we decided to adopt

We didn’t give up on the “traditional” way of starting a family.  We just haven’t been successful in the “traditional” way, yet…so we began to pray and the Lord had already given us a heart for adoption…it was just time for us to start pursuing it, even if it wasn’t within the “time” we thought it would be.  (In other words, we thought we would have biological children first…but God knows the best plans for us–more than we can ask or imagine!)

There have been some things said about evangelical adoption that are heard to process and understand. Because our heart is so far from the criticism that has surfaced lately.  Here is an article about a book called Child Catchers by Kathryn Joyce.  I have not read the book, but the article summarizes what it is about.  We, in no way at all, want to deprive a birth mother from her children.  We do not think we could raise her child better than she can.  We realize the Western culture and all of its comforts can be a harmful place for a child–no matter where they are born.  We are doing this to fulfill a call on our lives from the Lord.  To care for an orphan, a true orphan, who would grow up in an orphanage without a home, without a family, without medical care, without love, without hugs and kisses, etc.  We are not “catching a child” but, we are offering our home and our lives to a child in need.  One who is desperate.  One who does not have anyone else.

We will not be a part of any of the corruption that has surfaced in the last few years through international adoption.  This is why we have chosen Lifeline Children’s Services.  Because they are dedicated to these things, too.  I just wanted to share this with all of you.  It has been heavy on my heart that we aren’t just jumping on the “trendy train” of adoption…we know it is something that is important to the Lord, and important for a child to have a forever family, stability, love, care, and Jesus.  I usually don’t share such controversial topics, but this one was too much for me not to share.

Here is Lifeline’s stand on the corruption within the adoption industry:

Countries’ political systems and culture vary greatly from America so 
standards are different abroad. We acknowledge these varied standards can 
lead to the possibility of corruption in the international adoption process and 
our commitment to ethical adoptions may often complicate or delay 
adoption. Lifeline uses Hague standards and a Biblical framework as our 
guidelines for proceeding throughout the international adoption process to 
increase your faith that your adoption is ethical and build a hedge of protection 
against corruption while advocating for the children of a sovereign nation. In 
fact, countries may be suspicious or in total disagreement with standards, 
thought patterns, and basic behaviors that are acceptable in the US.

Our timeline is listed under the tab above: “Our Adoption Story“.  PS. We got a call this morning that they received our application and we are good to go!  Soo exciting!!!  We have applied for Ethiopia, though if in the next 3-4 months we feel called to another country, we are able to switch programs.  Here is the timeline for Ethiopia:

  • Provide initial application, with references, to Lifeline for review
  • Receive preliminary approval into the program
  • Begin your home study with a licensed home study provider
  • Receive official acceptance into the program (Requires home study review)
  • Make application for USCIS approval
  • Dossier compilation and submitted to Lifeline for approval
  • Send Complete Dossier for authentication and translation
  • Start your immunizations
  • Receive Referral. (Typically about 15-18 months after Dossier submission)
  • Receive Court Assignment (1-6 months post referral)
  • Travel for 1st visitation and court appearance
  • Prepare final documents and discuss travel
  • Pick up your Child (Normally, 3-4 months post court approval)
  • Usual length of stay is 5-7 days in-country for each visit
We are thrilled, scared, exciting, terrified, all at the same time.  And we are asking for a lot of prayers, for creativity in fundraising, and for prayers as we seek to become parents to a child that we already love, though we have not yet met.

“Lifeline Children’s Services exists to provide a hope and a future through the 

Gospel for children around the world by discipling, engaging and equipping 
people towards adoption, foster care, and orphan care.”

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When it’s hard…

When it is hard to process.  Hard to put to words how you really feel.  The Lord longs for us to run to Him.  To ask Him how to process all of it.  We need Him.

When we see the images from Oklahoma, which I will spare you from today, we can become numb, or unemotional.  I don’t want to shut down when it gets hard.

Sometimes the safe distance and our comforts in life prevent us from seeing and loving the people around us as God would love them.  My prayer this week is that God would break my heart for what breaks His heart.  I ask for Him to show me how to pray for those who are hurting.  I pray that being “so far removed” from the people who are hurting would not keep me from helping.

Nehemiah was “far removed” from his people when he learned of the news of Jerusalem.  His response to the news: “As soon as I heard these words I sat down and wept and mourned for days, and I continued fasting and praying before the God of heaven.” (Nehemiah 1: 4)  Now, Nehemiah had a job, and a pretty important one: cup bearer to the king.  He knew he was to leave his job, and go help the people of Jerusalem.  But before he went anywhere, his heart broke for his people.  He wept, he prayed, he fasted, and mourned.  And then he did something about it.  I am not saying we need to leave our jobs and go…but there are things we can do…and we can certainly pray.  And we can ask how He wants to move in our hearts.  And sometimes He will take us places that we never intended to go–in order to create things in us that we were never able to do on our own.   And sometimes, like in Nehemiah’s life, God gives us a task but makes us wait a while before we are supposed to carry it out.  Wow.  That one hits my life hard right now.  Waiting for a phone call to tell us we are accepted with Lifeline to adopt a child.  Waiting until the right time.  Waiting.  Til He tells us to GO!

From Day 2, She Reads Truth :

Sisters, there is so much work to do. We see need, pain and injustice all around us and our knees quickly buckle under the weight. We long to make our lists and check them twice and fix it all right this second. But we dare not make a move without God. As Ian Hamilton said it, “Beloved, our great and pressing need today is to give ourselves to waiting upon God, because waiting time is never wasted time.”

Nehemiah was an ordinary servant who would do extraordinary things, but he did them by moving with God. Not running ahead but walking beside.
I follow along with the other ladies at She Reads Truth, and we are studying Nehemiah now.  It is such a great study and you can find it on YouVersion, too!


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I love that quote, “waiting time is never wasted time”…such a good reminder that it is worth the wait to be in God’s will and to do as He is doing.  I want to be about My Father’s business, just as Jesus was.  I am praying for each of you today, that even in the hard times, that you would wait upon Him and He will quickly answer and tell you what you are to do.  

Read His Word.  Pray.  Fast, even.  Be in His Presence.  He will change you.  And you will never be the same.  

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